Beverage Zone
Dating in the modern age can feel like navigating a minefield, with new trends emerging faster than ever before. Just when you think you’ve got a handle on ghosting and breadcrumbing, a fresh wave of bizarre behaviors sweeps across the dating landscape. This year, three particularly unsettling trends have captured attention: “Throning,” “Shrekking,” and “Banksying.” Buckle up, because these terms describe dating experiences you probably hope to avoid.
Throning: Dating for Social Status
What is Throning?
Throning, derived from the concept of being “on a throne,” describes the act of dating someone primarily for their social status or professional connections. It’s about using someone to elevate your own position, rather than genuine romantic interest. I mean, who wants to be someone’s stepping stone, right?
Signs You’re Being Throned
How can you tell if you’re being throned? Well, it’s not always obvious, but here are a few red flags to watch out for:
- Your partner brags about you to others, but the praise feels superficial. It’s like you’re a trophy, not a person.
- They’re more interested in your connections than you as a person. Do they even ask about your day, or just who you know?
- They often bring you to events or gatherings to show you off. You’re basically arm candy, which, ugh, no thanks.
- Your conversations feel transactional, focused on what you can offer them. It’s always about what you can do for them, never about how you feel.
Shrekking: Embracing Your Inner Ogre
Defining the ‘Shrek’ Relationship
“Shrekking” – yes, like the lovable green ogre – refers to a situation where a couple, despite outward appearances and even their own initial beliefs, end up resembling the dynamic between Shrek and Fiona. Think about it: they weren’t exactly picture-perfect at first, were they? This isn’t necessarily negative, but acknowledges the evolution of a relationship beyond initial idealized versions. So, it’s not always about the fairy-tale romance, folks.
Is Shrekking Good or Bad?
While the term might sound comical (and let’s be honest, it is a little funny), Shrekking can be a healthy sign of a relationship maturing. It’s about accepting imperfections – both yours and your partner’s – and finding love and companionship in a more realistic, albeit less conventionally glamorous, way. It values genuine connection over curated perfection. Maybe it’s about time we all embraced our inner ogre a little bit? Just a thought.
Banksying: The Art of the Sudden Disappearance
The Elusive Nature of Banksying
Named after the anonymous street artist Banksy, “Banksying” describes a dating behavior where someone abruptly and unexpectedly ends a relationship, often without explanation or closure, and disappears completely, just like a Banksy artwork might suddenly self-destruct. One minute they’re there, the next… poof! Gone without a trace. Have you ever experienced something like that? It’s wild.
Why People Banksy and Its Impact
Motivations behind Banksying can range from fear of confrontation (because, adulting is hard, apparently) to a desire to avoid commitment. The impact on the person being Banksied can be significant, leading to feelings of confusion, rejection, and a lack of closure, making it difficult to move on. It’s like, did I do something wrong? Am I not good enough? So many questions with absolutely no answers. It’s brutal, to be honest.
Navigating the Modern Dating World
Protecting Yourself from Unhealthy Trends
Being aware of these dating trends is the first step in protecting yourself. Knowledge is power, right? Prioritize self-respect, communication, and look for partners who value genuine connection over superficial gains. If something feels off, trust your gut. It’s usually right.
Focusing on Authentic Connection
Ultimately, successful dating hinges on authenticity. Be honest about your intentions and expectations, and look for partners who reciprocate that honesty. Don’t let fleeting trends dictate your dating experience. Dating should be about finding someone who appreciates you for who you are, not someone who’s trying to “throne” you or will “Banksy” you at the first sign of trouble.
So, there you have it. Throning, Shrekking, and Banksying – three new dating trends that might make you want to swear off dating altogether. But hey, don’t lose hope! Just be aware, be yourself, and hopefully, you’ll find someone who’s looking for the real you, too. And if you encounter any of these trends, well, at least you’ll know what to call it. Good luck out there, and happy dating (or at least, manageable dating!).
